Love, Lose and Live

You can love, lose and survive.

We feel horrible, and there is a numbing emptiness in us when we lose a loved one, yet we bounce back and fill our selves up again, we all seem to survive it.
Yes, indeed Dr. Phil was right when he said we love, lose and survive but not until October 31st 2005 , till then bad things only happened to others, I never thought I will lose a child or even be able to survive.  Then the unbelievable, the unthinkable happened. The pain caused by the wound has helped me to cherish life and feel the tenderness and freedom of healing.
Life can stop at any moment for anyone, it doesn’t matter how successful or how religious you are, how much good you do for others, how many degrees you have, or how well you have planned for the future, misery strikes anyone. All are vulnerable to death , young or old. That evening I learned Life is instant…will be over any moment. Never take anything for granted or miss an opportunity to live.
I lost my six year old and the world has stopped for me, I am hurting, I looked around expecting everyone to stop for me. But no one has stopped, from sunrise to sunset the world kept turning on. I wanted to stand still , staring at the blankness , at the wilderness but it’s a jungle out there, with life moving on with greater speed., no one cared how bad you’re hurt . It taught another important lesson Life moves on , life goes on whether we want it or not. Your job, family, no one can stop to give you a hand or enough time to grieve, better bounce back and learn to move on.
One more important lesson I learned is cope mechanism is unique, there is no right or wrong way of grieving. Within the family, each one has a different way of coping. One might go to a silent mode like my husband , and on the other hand I was talking too much and feeling guilty about it. He didn’t want to eat while I wallowed in coffee and chocolates. One may find people and company helpful, other one may need solitude. Don’t try to be someone else, do it your own way. It all depends on one’s perspective, so don’t tell someone to do it your way but help them cope in their own way and help them understand it’s okay and it’s normal.
Today I want to tell you, be thankful for the bad things that happened in life, they will help you to appreciate and enjoy life more and also open your eyes to see good things that were unnoticed before.
We never get over it but learn to get through it and be an healing presence in someone’s life.

 

 

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Colors of life

Red ,Amber and green
What does it mean
Pretty, vibrant colors….
It’s life
A cycle

Red _ bright and striking,
Says stop….Relax!
It’s refreshing to know
I have time.😎

Amber_ mystifying..
Bewildered and baffled I am
……pondering speed up or slow down 😙
Then comes the vibrant to my rescue.

Green _.
Speed, go go go….. Race
Accelerate
Hurry up
Be alert….
It also means prosperity and success
As I reach my destination.

Don’t know why I wrote this😃
Just for fun….Maybe…
Amber again…And it goes on…. And on…

Accelerates….
Then get addled and muddled
Amber again
…… then stops.

It’s life cycle!
Sugema

Story Of Success

Success in life, whether it is weight loss or any kind of achievement in life ,is not easy. It requires hard work determination, positive attitude and the will to try new methods.
It doesn’t matter how much money you spend or how many new things you buy in order to achieve your goal, if you don’t have the right attitude and determination you will not succeed.
I was a bit concerned about my body weight, I began to research on weight loss plans and methods. Thousands of articles,and videos and products are available in the market.
I was confused.
I began to read only rhe comments.
Most said I didn’t lose weight or some lost but gained back…..and others who were successful were the ones who were determined and worked hard. They knew their body.
I learned
* consistency
* determination
* hard work
* positive attitude
* set goal
* time
are the factors/ tools required
There is absolutely no need to spend money on going to the gym or buying all the diet plans. With a bit of planning of your diet, a few minutes of exercise/ walk you can achieve it.
I lost 7 pounds.
Hope I will continue till I reach my goal.

Success is a journey, there is a lot of ups and downs, bad roads, rainy days, ….don’t stop.
Continue your journey, with a positive attitude.
Help others to succeed,on your way to ur destination.
Good luck.
God bless.

Each Day Is A New Promise

The whole earth is filled with awe at your wonders; where morning dawns, where evening fades, you call forth songs of joy. Psalm 65: 8

I always begin my day looking east through my window. It will be pitch dark when I wake up, I sit on my favorite couch and look out the window. I read my bible, pray and then I see light….breaking of the dawn, new birth, new day, and new promises.

The East and the sunrise reminds me of God, His promise to be with us, a new hope, a fresh start. No matter how bad your days have been, your past had been, your childhood had been, and we can always heal and start fresh again.10409134_10208545792350116_354284831601492310_n

The LORD’S loving kindnesses indeed never cease, for His compassions never fail. Lamentations 3:22-23

There is tremendous power in that feeling, power of rebirth, new possibilities. The marvelous sunrise is a reminder that God’s love and kindness never cease. So let’s look towards the rising sun and praise THE LORD, our Creator, for we don’t know how long we can enjoy this beauty.

Each moment we worry and be sad is a moment of happiness lost, which can never be recovered.

I am blessed to live on an island, though I don’t live on the beach or by the beach, I am somewhat close to the ocean, and on the eastern side of the island. Every day the sunrise is different and stunning. The hue, the serenity, and the beauty is beyond description. It’s like all heavens shall praise the LORD. Look at these pictures and see how each day is different and beautiful.

For His anger is but for a moment, His favor is for a lifetime; Weeping may last for the night, But a shout of joy comes in the morningPsalm 30:5

Enjoy each moment and find joy in every little thing.

 

PANCAKES, PANCAKES, PANCAKES

PANCAKES എന്നു കേൾക്കുമ്പോൾ ന്വ്മ്കുടെ മനസ്സിൽ തേങ്ങയും, പന്ച്ചസരെയും, ജീരകവും ഇട്ടു മടക്കി ചുട്ട അപ്പ അന്ന്. 12 വർഷം മുമ്പ് വരെയും എന്റെ PANCAKE അതായിരുന്നു.

ഈ നാട്ടിൽ VANNU കുറച്ചു നാൾ കയിഞ്ഞപ്പോൾ മകൾ ചോദിച്ചു “MAMMA, can you please make the real pan cake, not your kind, the real one. ”

അന്ന് കുറെ recipe ഒക്കെ വായിച്ചു പഠിച്ചു pancake ഉണ്ടാക്കി. മക്കളുടെ certificate കിട്ടി. “Getting there mamma, you are getting there. ”
ഇപ്പോൾ ഒരു expert അന്ന്
pancakes are simple and very easy to make, like a cake soft and fluffy, made with flour, sugar, butter and eggs, and no baking.

Here you go,
Ingredients
*Maida 1 Cup
* Sugar 2Tbsp
* Egg 1
*Baking powder 1Tsp
* Baking soda 1/2 Tsp
* milk 3/4 Cup
* Vinegar 2Tbsp
ground cinamon and vanilla (optinal) 1Tsp.

2016-02-08_18.23.19_wm[1]Method
1. Combine milk and vinegar and keep aside for 5 minutes to become sour. You may use curd/yogurt instead of vinegar.
2. Mix all the dry ingredients in a bowl.
3. Whisk egg into the sour milk.
4. Pour the milk and egg mixture into the flour mix and stir in without lumps. Keep aside the batter for another 5 to 10 minutes.
5. Scoop the batter on to a heated skillet/ tawa and cook till bubbles appear on the top. Then flip it over.
Don’t forget to grease the skillet wih butter or oil before pouring the batter.

2016-02-08_18.20.54_wm[1]TIPS
1. Add blueberries to this batter for blueberry pancakes Or banana to make banana pancake.

2. To make NO CARB PANCAKES mix two eggs into one mashed banana. Grease the skillet wih butter or oil and pour the mixture. Cook on low fire. Egg cooks well on low heat. No flour or butter needed.

 

A Sail AfterTurmoil

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A Sail AfterTurmoil

The coal of desire was red,
The fire of passion, blazzing
Dazzled and burned
Baffled and flustered
Glaze eyed, I stood.

Defeated, foiled, irked
I stepped back
Cold I appeared
Fumed , it smoked
It’s controlled

The whirlpool subsided
And now
The sail is steady
The tide has slowdown
As it crashes to wash away
The residue.

Sail ,let me sail along
Rough it could be
Smooth at times
May it not sink Continue reading “A Sail AfterTurmoil”